CHECKING IN for Week 38: Voilà, My Scar!


Checking in on Week 38‘s task of Voilà, My Scar!

This week you are to share a scar and its story with someone, as well as, ask someone about one of their scars and story around it.

You are welcome to do this in the comments…share one of your scar stories.

Besides it being and easy conversation starter and way to connect with someone, what else did you learn or realize from doing this?


  • something in common with someone,
  • were you able to relate,
  • a better understanding of that person,
  • how others dealt with the scar or thing that induced it,
  • lessons learned?

Scars are a part of life….the scars we can see and the ones we can’t. 

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Scars can shape who we are:

  • I have a friend who broke her femur when she was a teenager.  She has a scar from the surgeries to correct this injury.  This “scar” shaped her future; it lead her to become a nurse.
  • I have friends who have inner scars from traumatic childhoods who have used their own healing as a way to help others.
  • I’ve seen scars from illnesses create people who love life to the fullest.

On the spiritual level our scars can be seen as “Sacred Scars.”

This is what I have heard someone call Jesus’s scars on his hands and feet. Scars that he still carries with him even after his resurrection.  If you are like me, you may have wondered why God didn’t return him to “perfect.”

He received those scars in service to God and us. They were in service after he rose to show the apostles it was really him and alive.

They can be in service to us now, as Jesus still having scars means he understands our wounds and scars left from sufferings. And like him, they can be used by God to help others.

Do you have any “sacred scars’ or some that could be?

I hope you never become ashamed of your scars and use them to relate, share and tell your story, be you, and help another.

Cheering You on to a Whole Sacred Scar Heart,






CHECK IN for Week 24: Story Time


Checking in for Week 24’s task which was to SHARE A STORY with someone while you are out and about this week.

Have you done it yet?

I know this is not the easiest task for everyone.

Sharing a story takes VULNERABILITY.   

It produces CONNECTION.

For some of us, this is really hard.

In case you need a little motivation, take a look at the benefits of sharing stories:

From Psychology Today:

1) Realizing that sharing your story can help others–Stories can be very healing and many people benefit from getting the opportunity to pass on their wisdom to others.

2) Finding your voice–What does it mean to “find your voice”? It means learning how to express yourself and learning how to think about what has happened in your life in a way that makes sense…It helps to think about your life as a story with a beginning, a middle, and an end.  It helps to think about how the various events—even the bad ones—have been part of a journey toward the person you want to become.

3) Re-affirming your values–Sometimes you learn things about yourself from the act of writing or storytelling. It can be a way to clarify what is important.

4) Finding peace, finding hope–People who have found their voice, shared their story, and reaffirmed their values often find a sense of peace and a hopefulness that they did not have before.

“You truly don’t know who you are until you hear yourself tell the story of your life to someone else.”   –-Jin In

“Stories create community, enable us to see through the eyes of other people, and open us to the claims of others.” – Peter Forbes, photographer and author

“Stories are a communal currency of humanity.” –Tahir Shah, in Arabian Nights

“Words are how we think; stories are how we link.” –Christina Baldwin

“The planet does not need more successful people. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds.” – Dalai Lama

Life is more meaningful and purpose-filled with connections.

To be lighter and more loving means being more vulnerable, having more connections, sharing more of our self…through story!

Can’t seem to find the right time or person to share a story with, then feel free to share a story below!

Cheering You on to a Whole Story Connecting Heart,


2018 Week 24: Story Time


Week 24’s task of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is to SHARE A STORY with someone while you are out and about this week.

I’ve never lived in a place like Colorado where the people will tell you whole stories at the drop of a hat.  Complete strangers at the coffee shop or at a store, who will share a story of their life with me.   Usually there is something that triggers it…

  • my dog or puppy,
  • something I’m purchasing,
  • something I’m wearing,
  • a question I asked…even as simple as how is your day.

Just this morning, a man shared with me how his brother put hot sauce on things he didn’t want his new puppy to chew.   It was spurred by my overly exuberant puppy and his story was quite amusing.   It made my morning puppy-pulling-walk very enjoyable.

What I like about this is that it builds connection.

I like it that people want to connect here, even if it is just for 5 minutes!

And like in Week 11: Do the Wave, it makes one feel seen and noticed.

A great spirit-lifter is connecting and noticing others.

I love meeting new people; I think everyone has a story to tell. We should all listen sometimes. 

 –Kim Smith

Yes, this task may take extra time AND may certainly take some out of their comfort zone.

Try it and see how you feel.

As you are out and about this week, SHARE A STORY with someone…

  • something you notice or you relate to,

  • something funny that happened to you recently,

  • something you’ve been curious about and maybe they know the answer,

  • think of a story to tell, tell someone you were asked to share a story, and then share! 

Cheering You on to a Whole Story Shared Heart,