2018 Week 42: BOO!

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Task 42 of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is BOO!

As today is Halloween with potentially scary looking children showing up at our doors, this week’s task is to grab your journal and list everything that scares you…EVERYTHING!

From spiders and snakes to heights and darkness.

From scary movies to public speaking.

From loud noises at night to growing old.

Take your time, as the more you list, the deeper you get to less conscious fears.

This week, make a nice, calming cup of tea and list your fears.

As a side bit of awareness, think about how you react to fear.  The reaction maybe different with different kinds of fears.   Do you laugh, cry, get angry, run, scream, freeze, fight, etc?  Go down your list and write your most typical reaction next to as many of your fears as  you can.

Cheering You on to a Whole BOO List Heart,
Barbara

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CHECK IN for Week 32: TAKE YOUR SHOES OFF

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Checking in for Week 32’s task of TAKE YOUR SHOES OFF!

The task this week is to take a look at your BOUNDARIES.

Boundaries are guidelines on HOW TO LOVE YOU. 

(Of course they are also great for others to tell us how to love them, but for this week concentrate on knowing your boundaries.)

There is a verse in the bible, where Jesus is talking, and he is speaking of God here as well, that says,

“If you love Me, keep My commandments.”  John 14:15-17  (NKJV)

This does not say I WILL LOVE YOU IF YOU KEEP MY COMMANDMENTS.  God already loves us and always will.  This is talking about HOW YOU CAN SHOW YOU LOVE HIM.

The same goes with loving our selves and other people.

Do you have guidelines for important areas of your life such as money, healthy, body, family, relationships, time, emotional and mental health, home, and so on?

Boundaries let YOU and OTHERS know how to love YOU.

Danny Silk, President and Co-Founder of Loving On Purpose Ministries, translates the above verse like this:

“I can see how much value you place on protecting my heart based on how  you treat what I told you is important to me.”

Your heart breaks, can feel betrayed, and looses trust every time you cross over one of your boundaries.  And sometimes this happens because there have been no boundaries set.

This is why it is so important to KNOW YOUR GUIDELINES, TO KNOW WHAT IS IMPORTANT TO YOU, and TO SPEAK THEM TO YOUR SELF and OTHERS.

And I do know this is not always easy and can take years of trial and error to know what loving you may look like.  And I do know your boundaries can change over time, and in different circumstances, and with different people.   The thing is YOU NEED THEM and others need them from you.

I have learned over the years that “flying by the seat of my pants” on important areas of my life does not produce the best results.  Any time I have given my self a boundary or a guideline for something (i.e. health, body, relationship, or work goals), I was much lighter, more peaceful, more joyful, and more loving…and not to mention more productive and successful.

If you have experienced the same or have a boundary you’d like to share, please do so in the comments.

Take time this week to become more AWARE OF and JOURNAL ABOUT your boundaries.

Cheering You on to a Whole Protected Heart,

Barbara

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2018 Week 32: Take Your Shoes Off

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Week 32’s task of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is to TAKE OFF YOUR SHOES…Please!

Maybe you or you have friends that like to have shoes removed when coming into the house.

No matter the reason for this, it is a BOUNDARY that has been set to come in to yours or their home.

This week, take a look at your boundaries.

Boundaries are limits, lines, parameters, that you set in regards to your

  • stuff,

  • emotions,

  • health,

  • body,

  • spirituality.

Loving your self and loving others takes BOUNDARIES.

Check out THIS ARTICLE for an easy, quick description of boundaries.

Setting boundaries are not always easy.  One of the tell-tale signs of needing a boundary is a negative emotion–anger, blame, anxiety, frustration, depression, etc. 

I was never the best at this, but the more I got to know my self, the easier it was to recognize the need to set a boundary, understand what I needed, and speak up. Taking the time to journal helped with this process.  Journaling is a great way to voice emotions, learn about your self and what you need, and to do it in a safe place…your journal!

This week, take a look at your boundaries.  

Do you have a negative emotion floating around in you that might be telling you that a boundary is needed OR one that needs to be updated?

While BOUNDARIES sound LIMITING, it actually allows for more freedom and love. Feel free to share in the comments how you found that to be true in your life!

Cheering You on to a Whole Boundary Loved Heart,
Barbara

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CHECK IN for Week 20: MOMENT CLICKS

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Checking in on Week 20‘s task of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You!

The task was to take 5 photos of moments in your life you may have missed if you hadn’t been given this assignment.

How’d that go?  Did you take some photos?   Do share, if you did.  If not, you still can!


How does this make you Lighter and More Loving?

Capturing, noticing, being completely aware of a moment in your life will make you more present and grateful.

When you take time to notice YOUR LIFE MOMENTS, especially the smallest of them, you are IN THE NOW.   Being in the NOW brings peace.  Your mind is not in the land of yesterday or tomorrow, but right NOW. 

It takes lots of practice to be in the NOW.   As they say in my yoga classes, “your monkey mind likes to be any place but here…NOW”.


Let’s take this “NOW MOMENTS OF YOUR LIFE” one step further…

I’ve seen this quote for years:

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and this one…

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What are your thoughts on what that means?

To me it is about all those MOMENTS and not the awards, titles, achievements, etc.

AND it is about HOW ARE YOU BEING ON THAT JOURNEY!

How are you being with your moments?

The moments of…

  • hurts, disappointments, heartaches,
  • joys and delights.

What about specific things on life’s journey…

  • moving
  • training a puppy
  • loving your spouse
  • death
  • child rearing
  • traveling
  • purchasing a house; selling a house
  • paying your bills
  • being a friend
  • mowing the lawn
  • grocery shopping
  • meeting new people
  • mopping the floor
  • changing a light bulb

And on and on!!!

I’ve had many “successful destination” moments, so to speak, yet wasn’t always happy with how I was BEING on the way there.

When I started practicing BEING IN THE NOW….and not fearing or fretting….so many everyday moments in life felt like “successes” because I liked how I was BEING in them.

How do you want to BE in the MOMENTS of your JOURNEY?

Cheering You on to a Whole MOMENT JOURNEYING Heart,

Barbara

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