CHECK IN Week 28: One Hundred

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Checking in on Week 28’s task of listing 100 Ways to Love Your Self.

How is it going?   Have you started?

Does it seem overwhelming, a waste of time, too selfish or self involved?

As with Week 27‘s task of listing all the ways you love you, this is not an exercise to “list all the ways to boost your ego”!   It is a relationship building list!

How you can show you that you love and care about your self.  

And, again, how  you love you will be how you love others.

Are there things that you often wish your spouse, friend, someone would do for you to show you love?

Add those to your list and do them for your self.

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The American Institute of Stress says,

You need physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual energy to be your best you. Self-care renews these energies and provides the fuel for effective, resilient leadership; energized, wise parenting; and meaningful, adult relationships.

(From 6 Subtle Signs You Are Overdue for Self Care: Self-care is not a luxury!)

Self Love is really SELF CARE!

Make your list and then enjoy the love and care as you do them for your self.

Cheering You on to a Whole Self Care Heart,

Barbara

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CHECK IN for Week 21: Please, Leave a Message

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Week 21‘s task of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is to LEAVE A MESSAGE!

  • Take out 5 post it notes or scraps of paper. 

  • On each one write an encouraging word.  This could be your favorite quote, bible verse or something inspirational that has helped you on life’s journey.

  • Take those 5 MESSAGES and leave them places as you are out and about this week.

I hope you had fun with this task!  You never know who you might have encouraged, helped, or made their day.


I have a wonderful friend who every morning sends me her “check in” for the day.

It is short and sweet containing what she is grateful for, her plan for the day, and a short encouraging word, quote or scripture.

At the end she almost always says something like this….

“How may I be of service to others today?”

“How can I help another today?”

She learned long ago that to be of service, help, or encouragement to others is the best way for her to be lighter and more loving.


So many of us think so little of ourselves, we think we can’t be of help to others.

So many of us think too much about our self (as in being self-consciousness), we don’t think much about others.

Directing our energy towards another is one of the best ways to reduce anxiety and depression, aiding us to be lighter and more loving.

No matter who you are you can be of service, help, and encouragement to another…even with the 5 messages!

Encouraging You on to a Whole Service-Full Heart,
Barbara

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2018 Week 21: PLEASE, LEAVE A MESSAGE

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Week 21’s task of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is to LEAVE A MESSAGE!

  • Take out 5 post it notes or scraps of paper. 

  • On each one write an encouraging word.  This could be your favorite quote, bible verse or something inspirational that has helped you on life’s journey.

  • Take those 5 MESSAGES and leave them places as you are out and about this week.

Leave them…

  • in a magazine in a waiting room at an appointment you have–hair, doctor, dentist, etc.,
  • stuck to a box a cereal (or whatever) at the grocery store,
  • stuck to a gas pump,
  • on a bathroom stall door,
  • in a purse or wallet at a clothing store,
  • stick it in a bottle and throw it in the ocean.

You get the idea!

Have fun with this!

No one will know it was you BUT it could absolutely make someone’s day.

Feel free to share one of your encouraging messages in the comments!

Cheering You on to a Whole Message Encouraging Heart,

Barbara

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CHECK IN for Week 12: JAR OF FUN

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Your task for this week of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is to make a JAR OF FUN.

This could be for Family Fun, Date Night Fun, or Artist/Adventure Day Fun.  Have you done yours yet?


When my daughter was growing up, we had a FAMILY FUN JAR.

This FUN JAR was one of the best things we did as a family to make sure we…

  • had QUALITY family time,

  • built our relationships,

  • had fun,

  • make wonderful memories together,

  • and grow personally.


How did we grow personally?

Each of us in our family added activities to the jar. Only a certain number of those activities could cost money; i.e. if we each put 5 activities in the jar, only one could cost money to do.

Who’s ever activity got picked also decided on what the meal was for that night.

All the details of dinner and the activity were decided by the author of the activity (unless they needed a bit of help.)

The big thing was, there was a rule that we HAD TO DO whatever was decided for dinner and for the activity!  (All within safety and appropriateness.)

We all became better at:

  • being creative

  • planning

  • problem solving

  • knowing each others likes and needs,

  • and, most of all, BEING WILLING TO DO WHAT ANOTHER WANTED without complaining, swaying or manipulating things to our own liking.

There is a lot to gain from a Jar of Fun!

Encouraging you to a Whole WILLING Heart,

Barbara

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