CHECK IN for Week 15: Ask the ?

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Checking in on how Week 15’s task to a Lighter More Loving You is going!

This week’s task is to BECOME MINDFUL of the AFTER FEELING of your choices and ask yourself the question, “WHAT IS THE MOST LOVING THING I CAN CHOOSE OR DO IN THIS SITUATION?”.


It will take time to become an expert at answering what is the most loving choice for any given situation.

And each time you answer, it maybe different from the time before.

For example, sometimes the most loving thing is to choose not to eat dessert, where the next time the most loving thing may be to eat dessert!

There are a couple of factors in the “LOVING CHOICE” being different.


ONE…Is it a PLANNED CONSCIOUS CHOICE!

How many choices do you make that are not planned, and after, leave you with a negative feeling….maybe guilt, shame, disappointment, anxiety, etc.

This does not mean you can’t be spontaneous.  It may mean that on some choices there needs to be a pause to be MINDFUL of how that choice will leave you feeling.

For me, I find this very helpful with food and spending money.

A PLANNED MINDFUL CHOICE is more joy-filled and leaves the negative feelings behind.


TWO…Does it fit with who you are or who you want to be?

Who you are or who you want to be could be a lengthy discussion, but if you could fill in the blank to this statement with ten words, what would those words be?

I am about ________.

I am about…..

  1. Peace
  2. Simplicity
  3. Health
  4. Connection
  5. Joy
  6. Travel
  7. etc.

Knowing YOUR WORDS will help when you are making LOVING CHOICES.

Feel free to share YOUR WORDS below!   I’d love to know and they could encourage others.

Encouraging You on to a Whole Mindful Loving Choice Heart,
Barbara

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2018 Week 15: Ask the ?

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Week 15’s task of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is to ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION…

WHAT IS THE MOST LOVING thing I can do in this situation?

WHAT IS THE MOST LOVING choice for me?


Years ago someone asked me to question myself like this with every decision I made and for every situation I was in.   I was amazed at how many times I caught myself choosing or doing the “less loving thing”…especially for myself…from what I choose to eat to how I responded in hard situations.

How do you know if the choice is MOST LOVING for you?

Usually it is the AFTER FEELING from the choice.

How do you feel…

  • after you exercise
  • after you eat donuts
  • after you said nothing or way too much during a hard conversation;
  • after you share an idea
  • after you organize something
  • after you encounter a certain individual
  • after you watch hours of TV

This task is really twofold as becoming more mindful of AFTER FEELINGS will help with answering the question WHAT IS THE MOST LOVING CHOICE FOR YOU.

This week BECOME MINDFUL of the AFTER FEELING of your choices and ask yourself the question….WHAT IS THE MOST LOVING THING I CAN CHOOSE OR DO IN THIS SITUATION?

Cheering you on to a Whole CHOOSING LOVE Heart,
Barbara

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