CHECK IN for Week 26: Bell Ringer


Did you see lots of totally spectacular fireworks these last couple days?  Did you say to yourself, “That’s a Bell Ringer!”?

Checking in on Week 26 of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You.

Your task this week is to notice things in your life that are totally spectacular and say to yourself…


Doing this, of course, makes you more grateful which increases your overall lightness and happiness.

What else can be gained from this BELL RINGING experience as it pertains to a Lighter More Loving You?

As stated in Week 26’s post, “It was always a mystery if the fireworks they purchased would actually work, do what it said it would do, be a total dud, or be totally spectacular.”

One of the things that make us stressed and less loving is INDECISION.

Indecision is often caused by….

  • wanting to know what the outcome is going to be (trying to read the future!),
  • being overwhelmed or tired,
  • fear of making a mistake.

Some decisions do need to be weighed with pros and cons, some need wise counsel, some need to be put on hold till your mind or the way is more clear.

And sometimes we just need to decide….light that firework and see if it is going to be a dud or something spectacular!

The thing is…

  • indecision causes much stress,
  • the outcome of most decisions are going to be a mystery,
  • it is okay to “try” or “do” something and then change your mind,
  • not all decisions are going to be spectacular ones,
  • we often learn more from the DUD decisions,
  • you will never have BELL RINGER situations in life if you don’t decide and do.

Feel free to share some of the things you noticed in your life that are BELL RINGERS…and, can you also see the decision you made that brought it about?

Cheering You on to a Whole Decisive Bell Ringing Heart,



2018 Week 26: Bell Ringer


I hope you enjoyed your FIKA BREAK from Week 25 and are recharged for the second half of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You!

This week’s task, in honor of our FREEDOM and INDEPENDENCE is to be a BELL RINGER!

One of my favorite memories growing up was the 4th of July picnics that included a large group of family friends.   My dad and several of the other fathers of these families (known as the “Jolly Boys”) would take a golf trip to the Carolina’s in the spring.  On their way home, they would purchase fireworks….which were legal there, but not in Pennsylvania where we lived.  On the 4th we’d have a giant picnic and shoot off the fireworks…often accompanied by a police visit!

It was always a mystery if the fireworks they purchased would actually work, do what it said it would do, be a total dud, or be totally spectacular.

A tradition was started that when one of the fireworks was totally spectacular, we’d ring cow bells. 

To this day, if I see a totally spectacular firework, I want to ring a bell!  Most of the time I just say to myself,

“It’s a Bell Ringer!”

This week, I don’t want you to bell ring fireworks, though feel free to do so!

I want you to notice things in your life that are totally spectacular and say to yourself…


Maybe it is…

  • something you made or created,
  • how green your yard is or how pretty some of your flowers are,
  • how you didn’t lose your cool when something unpleasant happened,
  • how the AC kept your house cool,
  • the person who gave you great service at a store,
  • the guy who let you in while driving,
  • how you didn’t say a nasty word to the guy who didn’t let you in while driving,
  • when you tried something new,
  • the sunrise or sunset you saw,
  • the hug from a friend,
  • how you let something go so you could play with your kids,
  • how clean you got your house,
  • how the dog followed a command.

I think you get the idea!

This is similar to writing down your treasures from Week 8,  except you don’t need to write them down, just notice them and say to yourself,

“That’s a Bell Ringer!!”

Cheering You on to a Whole Bell Ringing Heart,


CHECK IN Week 23: Khop Khun Mak Kha


Checking in on Week 23’s task of writing a Khop Khun Mak Kha (Thai for Thank You) Note.

The task was to write a Thank You Note to someone who has had an impact or influence on your life, AND to do this as a handwritten note and through snail mail!

We probably understand the importance of gratitude.  Do you know that there are benefits to sending handwritten thank you notes??

Check this out by Monica at Heart Gratitude

Here are 5 benefits of a handwritten thank-you note

  • It gives us an opportunity to reflect on what another person has given to us or done for us. This is how true appreciation develops. If you don’t give a second thought to what you received then you probably aren’t going to feel very thankful
  • Thinking about and expressing appreciation for what someone else has done for us helps us realize we are loved!
  • In today’s digital age of email and texting a handwritten note is often a novelty. And when you take the time to write and send a note in the mail, that person is assured that you appreciate what they have done for you or given to you. It is often more meaningful than a text or email.
  • Most people really enjoy receiving a nice hand-written note in the mail so you might just make their day as they read that heartfelt card!
  • Handwritten thank-you notes can be kept as a keepsake. I have several heartfelt thank you’s from people I love that I hang on to.

Many of us might keep gratitude journals and in Week 8, this was encouraged for a Lighter More Loving You

Here is a little something from Becky at So Very Blessed on going deeper into cultivating a grateful heart. 

A Gratitude Journal Alone Is Not Enough

Writing in your gratitude journal alone is not enough. A thankful heart comes from being able to feel it, too. 

If the purpose of writing down five things you are grateful for every day was simply that, then it would be enough to just put your pen to paper. After number five, you could check that task off of your list and be done with it.

Cultivating a true heart of thankfulness goes deeper than mere words.Gratitude journals are wonderful and I love them and use them daily, but it's not going to give you a heart of thankfulness without this one missing piece.

The purpose of writing down those things you are grateful for is to feel them. Relive those moments in vivid detail.

Replay that compliment someone told you or that smile your child gave you that lit up the room and warmed your heart.

What was going on around you? How did it make you feel?  

Savor the moment in all of your senses – the words, the emotions, the scents, the sounds.

About three years ago, I was in church with my family. My niece was 3 at the time and I was holding her in my arms while we were all standing up singing a hymn. At one point, she wrapped her arms around me and nuzzled her head into the nook of my neck. I remember everything from that moment – the bellowing organ, the feel of her skin, the smell of her hair, and especially how my heart was just bursting with love for that sweet girl and how thankful I was to be her aunt. I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve thought of that moment since that day and it never ceases to bring a smile to my face and warmth to my heart.

The more details you can remember, the better you will be able to solidify that moment in your memory, and the greater gratitude you will feel. And learning to do that regularly will change your life.

The more often you are able to relive those wonderful moments, the more you will experience a heart, and a life, overflowing with thankfulness.

Still time to hand write that Khop Khun Mak Kha (Thank You) Note!

Cheering You on to a Whole Deeply Cultivated Khop Khun Mak Kha Heart,





2018 Week 23: Khop Khun Mak Kha


Your task for week 23 of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is to write a Khop Khun Mak Kha note!

Khop Khun Mak Kha is THANK YOU in Thai!

This week write…snail mail…not text or email….a Thank You note to someone who…

  • has had an impact on your life (maybe a past teacher, preacher, coach, mentor, a friend’s parent),
  • was there when you needed someone,
  • gave you a great piece of advice, an encouraging word, or a wonderful compliment,
  • did a kind deed for you or went out of their way to do something for you,
  • has been or is a great example of a loving human being,
  • exhibits a quality trait you find encouraging.

Maybe this is someone from your past or a current friend, spouse, or even your child!

The idea here is to thank someone for something that was not a “material gift” and to do it as an actual hand written note.

Gratitude is a key to a Lighter More Loving You.

Encouraging You on to a Whole Khop Khun Mak Kha Heart,