CHECK IN for Week 20: MOMENT CLICKS

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Checking in on Week 20‘s task of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You!

The task was to take 5 photos of moments in your life you may have missed if you hadn’t been given this assignment.

How’d that go?  Did you take some photos?   Do share, if you did.  If not, you still can!


How does this make you Lighter and More Loving?

Capturing, noticing, being completely aware of a moment in your life will make you more present and grateful.

When you take time to notice YOUR LIFE MOMENTS, especially the smallest of them, you are IN THE NOW.   Being in the NOW brings peace.  Your mind is not in the land of yesterday or tomorrow, but right NOW. 

It takes lots of practice to be in the NOW.   As they say in my yoga classes, “your monkey mind likes to be any place but here…NOW”.


Let’s take this “NOW MOMENTS OF YOUR LIFE” one step further…

I’ve seen this quote for years:

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and this one…

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What are your thoughts on what that means?

To me it is about all those MOMENTS and not the awards, titles, achievements, etc.

AND it is about HOW ARE YOU BEING ON THAT JOURNEY!

How are you being with your moments?

The moments of…

  • hurts, disappointments, heartaches,
  • joys and delights.

What about specific things on life’s journey…

  • moving
  • training a puppy
  • loving your spouse
  • death
  • child rearing
  • traveling
  • purchasing a house; selling a house
  • paying your bills
  • being a friend
  • mowing the lawn
  • grocery shopping
  • meeting new people
  • mopping the floor
  • changing a light bulb

And on and on!!!

I’ve had many “successful destination” moments, so to speak, yet wasn’t always happy with how I was BEING on the way there.

When I started practicing BEING IN THE NOW….and not fearing or fretting….so many everyday moments in life felt like “successes” because I liked how I was BEING in them.

How do you want to BE in the MOMENTS of your JOURNEY?

Cheering You on to a Whole MOMENT JOURNEYING Heart,

Barbara

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CHECK IN for Week 15: Ask the ?

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Checking in on how Week 15’s task to a Lighter More Loving You is going!

This week’s task is to BECOME MINDFUL of the AFTER FEELING of your choices and ask yourself the question, “WHAT IS THE MOST LOVING THING I CAN CHOOSE OR DO IN THIS SITUATION?”.


It will take time to become an expert at answering what is the most loving choice for any given situation.

And each time you answer, it maybe different from the time before.

For example, sometimes the most loving thing is to choose not to eat dessert, where the next time the most loving thing may be to eat dessert!

There are a couple of factors in the “LOVING CHOICE” being different.


ONE…Is it a PLANNED CONSCIOUS CHOICE!

How many choices do you make that are not planned, and after, leave you with a negative feeling….maybe guilt, shame, disappointment, anxiety, etc.

This does not mean you can’t be spontaneous.  It may mean that on some choices there needs to be a pause to be MINDFUL of how that choice will leave you feeling.

For me, I find this very helpful with food and spending money.

A PLANNED MINDFUL CHOICE is more joy-filled and leaves the negative feelings behind.


TWO…Does it fit with who you are or who you want to be?

Who you are or who you want to be could be a lengthy discussion, but if you could fill in the blank to this statement with ten words, what would those words be?

I am about ________.

I am about…..

  1. Peace
  2. Simplicity
  3. Health
  4. Connection
  5. Joy
  6. Travel
  7. etc.

Knowing YOUR WORDS will help when you are making LOVING CHOICES.

Feel free to share YOUR WORDS below!   I’d love to know and they could encourage others.

Encouraging You on to a Whole Mindful Loving Choice Heart,
Barbara

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2018 Week 15: Ask the ?

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Week 15’s task of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is to ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION…

WHAT IS THE MOST LOVING thing I can do in this situation?

WHAT IS THE MOST LOVING choice for me?


Years ago someone asked me to question myself like this with every decision I made and for every situation I was in.   I was amazed at how many times I caught myself choosing or doing the “less loving thing”…especially for myself…from what I choose to eat to how I responded in hard situations.

How do you know if the choice is MOST LOVING for you?

Usually it is the AFTER FEELING from the choice.

How do you feel…

  • after you exercise
  • after you eat donuts
  • after you said nothing or way too much during a hard conversation;
  • after you share an idea
  • after you organize something
  • after you encounter a certain individual
  • after you watch hours of TV

This task is really twofold as becoming more mindful of AFTER FEELINGS will help with answering the question WHAT IS THE MOST LOVING CHOICE FOR YOU.

This week BECOME MINDFUL of the AFTER FEELING of your choices and ask yourself the question….WHAT IS THE MOST LOVING THING I CAN CHOOSE OR DO IN THIS SITUATION?

Cheering you on to a Whole CHOOSING LOVE Heart,
Barbara

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CHECK IN for Week 13: REFLECT

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The task for Week 13  of a Lighter More Loving You was to cover your mirrors for a day.  

Skip using a mirror to seek approval for your “okay-ness” based on outward appearance.

The “human” world spends much time on telling us how to REFLECT ourselves to others…from our body size to how to wear a scarf. No one needs a reminder of all the BEAUTY messages we get each day on weight, clothes, skin, age, exercise, nutrition, and on and on.

 


At the yoga studio I attend, there is a post-it note on the mirror that says, “You are beautiful”.

Is it only by our REFLECTION in the mirror that we can say we are beautiful?

This was the point of the exercise…YOU CAN BE BEAUTIFUL without seeing your reflection in a mirror!

When I start getting overly analytical about what I see REFLECTING in a mirror, I remind myself to concentrate more on my HEART than my HAIR!!

What do you want your HEART to REFLECT?

We are each “human” and “spirit”.

Work on your heart (spiritual life) and you will become radiantly beautiful!

The best part of becoming spiritually beautiful is that the only WORK you need to do is to have a spiritual life, stay connected in it, and the spirit does the work.

2 Corinthians 3:18 The Voice (VOICE)

18 Now all of us, with our faces unveiled, reflect the glory of the Lord as if we are mirrors; and so we are being transformed, metamorphosed, into His same image from one radiance of glory to another, just as the Spirit of the Lord accomplishes it.

If you haven’t gone a day without your mirror, I encourage you to do so.  There is nothing wrong with doing your hair, wearing makeup, taking care of yourself, or wearing nice clothes.  That is all wonderful loving self-care…and needed.  If you are overly self-critical or have a hard time going without your mirror…

Concentrate more on what you want your Heart to REFLECT  rather than your Hair and you will have a Lighter More Loving You!!

Cheering You to a Whole Beautiful Reflecting Heart,

Barbara

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