CHECK IN Week 41: Thumber

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This week’s task was to follow THUMBER’S advice and SAY NOTHIN’ negative, sarcastic, or mean OUT LOUD in regards to your body, weight, face, hair, etc, or about food, calories, eating/drinking this or that.

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How is that going?  Are you catching yourself?  Are you noticing how often you say something in your thoughts that are not kind and loving about your body or food?  Are you noticing it from others?

If you are being more aware of your self talk around your body and food, can you dig a little deeper and discover what feeling is behind the thoughts/comments?

Our culture is saturated with body image “requirements”.  So much so, that people become obsessed with their body.  Since one of the things that effects the body is food, it is logical that the obsession with food also exists.

Think for a minute, what could somebody believe about themselves if they don’t meet the many cultural body image “requirements”?

  • not beautiful
  • won’t be accepted
  • un-lovable
  • not enough
  • unhealthy
  • ?

Fear is the culprit to saying unkind things about our self or food.  Fear is the culprit that leads us to do unhealthy things to our body and with food.

Fear comes because we are believing what culture (or some unloving human) says about who we should be or how we should look.

How does one cast out the fear?  LOVE!

To realign our bodies and any negative relationship with food, love is needed. 

  • To love your body just as it is at any given moment…every ounce, every scar, every wrinkle. Being grateful for all the parts of your body is a good way to start.
  • To understand that food and eating is self-care and self-love, not something to be used as a coping skill or a punishment.  And that food is not something to fear.
  • To understand that you are more than the weight on a scale or a pant size.  I have yet to find a scale that will tell me I have a good sense of humor or how compassionate I am.
  • To understand what your body loves…like what kinds of food makes it feel  energized and healthy and what kind of exercise does your body love to do.  (Not every body is the same.  I have a friend who loves running.  My body does not  love to run, but it loves walking and yoga.)
  • To remember you are more than your body, hair, face, etc.  You, the real you, is your spirit, your essence.  If you were blind from birth, how would you know a beautiful person?
  • On a spiritual level, God says you are already loved and perfect in your imperfections.   If you lived and choose from already being loved and imperfectly perfect, what would you be doing?  How would you be living?  So many people are living from the fear they aren’t lovable until _____(fill in with your thing…weigh a certain amount, look a certain way)_______ or at all because they don’t meet some cultural standard.

A ‘Lighter More Loving You in this area looks like…

  • recognition of fear driven body image beliefs and behaviors,
  • Thumber-ing…stopping the negative talk out loud in regards to your body or food, and
  • cultivating a new set of loving thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors around your body and food.

Cheering You on to a Whole Cast Out Fear With Love Heart,
Barbara

 

 

 

 

2018 Week 41: Thumber

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Week 41’s task of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is Thumber.

Thumber, from the Disney movie Bambi, said one of the most quoted lines ever…

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I have a pet-peeve…how often people, and especially women, will talk about their weight, face, hair, body, skin, eyes, nose, you name it, in a disparaging way.   Or how often someone will comment about how they shouldn’t eat/drink this or that, or how eating/drinking this or that is going to end up on their hips, stomach, thighs, etc. Or a negative or sarcastic comment about the amount of calories in something.

It’s probably a pet-peeve because I was terrible at this, whether I spoke it out loud or in my mind.  It sure made it hard to enjoy parties or holidays…and sometimes eating in general!!  It made it hard to like my body or how I looked… and often myself in general.  I felt like I was in a constant battle. Fighting does not fix anything…only love heals.

This being no way to live, 10 years ago I said no more talking this way out loud or in my head about my body or food.  Once this became my norm…saying nothin’ and being much more kind and loving about my body and food…then things changed.  I became lighter physically and mentally.  This freed up a lot of energy and freed me to make choices that were more loving for my body.

I was in this battle a long time. This is a process and can take time to settle and heal. Last week’s task and this week’s task are a good place to start.

 

This week your task is to follow THUMBER’S advice and SAY NOTHIN’ negative, sarcastic, or mean OUT LOUD in regards to your body, weight, face, hair, etc, or about food, calories, eating/drinking this or that.

Take notice of how often you say something in your head...and maybe how often you hear others say something.

Cheering You on to a Whole Thumber’s Advice Heart,
Barbara

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CHECK IN for Week 13: REFLECT

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The task for Week 13  of a Lighter More Loving You was to cover your mirrors for a day.  

Skip using a mirror to seek approval for your “okay-ness” based on outward appearance.

The “human” world spends much time on telling us how to REFLECT ourselves to others…from our body size to how to wear a scarf. No one needs a reminder of all the BEAUTY messages we get each day on weight, clothes, skin, age, exercise, nutrition, and on and on.

 


At the yoga studio I attend, there is a post-it note on the mirror that says, “You are beautiful”.

Is it only by our REFLECTION in the mirror that we can say we are beautiful?

This was the point of the exercise…YOU CAN BE BEAUTIFUL without seeing your reflection in a mirror!

When I start getting overly analytical about what I see REFLECTING in a mirror, I remind myself to concentrate more on my HEART than my HAIR!!

What do you want your HEART to REFLECT?

We are each “human” and “spirit”.

Work on your heart (spiritual life) and you will become radiantly beautiful!

The best part of becoming spiritually beautiful is that the only WORK you need to do is to have a spiritual life, stay connected in it, and the spirit does the work.

2 Corinthians 3:18 The Voice (VOICE)

18 Now all of us, with our faces unveiled, reflect the glory of the Lord as if we are mirrors; and so we are being transformed, metamorphosed, into His same image from one radiance of glory to another, just as the Spirit of the Lord accomplishes it.

If you haven’t gone a day without your mirror, I encourage you to do so.  There is nothing wrong with doing your hair, wearing makeup, taking care of yourself, or wearing nice clothes.  That is all wonderful loving self-care…and needed.  If you are overly self-critical or have a hard time going without your mirror…

Concentrate more on what you want your Heart to REFLECT  rather than your Hair and you will have a Lighter More Loving You!!

Cheering You to a Whole Beautiful Reflecting Heart,

Barbara

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2018 Week 13: Reflect

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Week 13’s Task of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is to REFLECT.

This simple and a bit unusual task is to REFLECT about how you want to REFLECT!

WHAT??!!!    🙂

This week pick a day and COVER ALL YOUR MIRRORS!

Before you go to bed on the eve of “no mirror day”, cover any mirror you typically use with a towel, sheet, or blanket.

For ONE DAY, do not use a mirror to fix your hair, apply makeup, examine your skin, see how your clothes fit, or criticize your reflection in any way!  

Believe it or not, this exercise can make you feel really good!

You can still do your hair and makeup…or not…just don’t use a mirror!

I’d love to give this exercise to you for a week, but if you go ONE DAY, I’ll be cheering loud for you!


For a week I stayed at a place where there were no mirrors. This was not on purpose!  At first I was quite anxious….worrying about my hair and all.

It made me realize how much I rely on a mirror to tell me “I’m Okay!”   UGH!

This really got my REFLECTIVE juices going.

What is this anxiety all about?

And I started thinking what is it I really want to REFLECT if I can’t see it from my outward garb of clothes, hair and makeup?

By the third day, I’d given up all makeup, wore what made me comfortable, and let my hair be!  I was happy to just be me…whatever that looked like!  I enjoyed it!

So this week, pick a day, cover those mirrors, and REFLECT!

Feel free to share below how this went!

Encouraging You to a Whole JUST YOU REFLECTED Heart,
Barbara

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