CHECK IN for Week 35: Bushwack

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Checking in on Week 35‘s Task. 

This week, before we bushwack, your task is to write out your 70-80 thoughts.

How is that going?

This is part ONE of the BUSHWACK process.

It will be important for you to list your thoughts.

  • Writing them out will automatically reduce their power providing you a chance to BUSHWACK a new thought.
  • More importantly, you will have spent some time paying attention to the thoughts going through your head. Once again, an extremely important step in changing your thoughts and thus becoming a lighter, more loving you.

Maybe you are noticing categories , such as…

  • food
  • clothes
  • body image
  • worries
  • work
  • future
  • past
  • etc.

Take note of your categories.

The thing is….DON’T SKIP THIS STEP!

Sit down and write out your 70-80 thoughts!

Cheering You on to a Whole List Before Forging Ahead Heart,

Barbara

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2018 Week 35: Bushwack

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Week 35’s task of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is to BUSHWACK!

bushwack:

(v): traveling/hiking through dense growth by cutting throughbranches and bushes;(n): it is also a term used by hikers to describe a very strenuous, obstacle ridden trail with brush, branches and/or bushes etc.

I’m not going to send you hiking, though that would be an awesome activity to do this week!

We are going to do a bit of hiking in our minds.


I like to hike.  I like to follow trails.  I like trails because they are

  • easier…already trampled and free of obstacles,

  • less stress filled...no extra equipment needed to traverse a well-worn trail,

  • well-marked…also making it easier, and

  • safer…hopefully, as most trails have been planned/created and been proven worthy by many travelers.

Bushwacking, on the other hand,

  • takes courage to go off the beaten trail in order to forge a new path,

  • takes extra equipment like a knife or hatchet to cut down brush and branches,

  • takes bravery to face uncertainties and the potential to get lost, and

  • takes extra effort to keep one’s self safe and “whack” one’s way through brush and bushes.

If you are like me, the well-worn trail is more relaxing, peaceful, and, basically, pain-free.


What does this have to do with our minds?

Out thoughts cut “trails” in our mind.  These are often WELL WORN!   Not all our thought trails are fun or nice BUT they are easy, safe, and well-worn.   They are familiar to us and take no extra effort to travel down.

We think over 60,000 thoughts a day.  85% of them are negative in nature, and so many of them are well-worn trails.

If you could catch just 5% of those negative thoughts, and BUSHWACK a new trail (a new thought), you could have a more positive and different life.

The key here is to CATCH THEM!

Studies have shown that we think the same 70-80 thoughts everyday just in different ways.   These would make up our 60,000 thoughts.

Before the BUSHWACKING, comes AWARENESS.

This week, before we bushwack, your task is to write out your 70-80 thoughts.

YES…get out those journals and write out your 70-80 thoughts!   (At least I didn’t say 60,000.)  You might notice that they tend to fit in certain categories, which is why the 60,000 turns in to 70-80, just thought in different ways.  This is similar to WEEK 4 where the task was to GIVE NOTICE to your thoughts.  This time, however, write them out.

Feel free to share how it was to list your 70-80 thoughts in the comments.

Cheering You on to a Whole Aware Before Whacking Heart,
Barbara

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CHECK IN for Week 30: Seek Truth

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Checking in for Week 30’s task of SEEKING TRUTH.

The task is to be aware of any stressful thoughts you are having.  Write them down and take them through these four questions:

  1. Is it true?

  2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?

  3. How do you react when you believe that thought? 

  4. Who would you be without that thought?

After you question your thought, turn the thought around….write a few OPPOSITES of that thought…and then ask…which one of those statements holds some truth?

(This is called INQUIRY from Byron Katie’s book LOVING WHAT IS.)

How is it going?  Have you tried this with some thoughts that are causing you discomfort?

Here are a few notes about this method stemming from my personal INQUIRY:

  • It brought more awareness to my thought life and the emotions that stem from those thoughts.   It’s amazing how BUSY and UNAWARE I was spending my life!

  • It is a great way to gain different perspectives, which calmed the emotion accompanying a thought about a situation, person, or myself.

  • It has led me to talk and ask more questions of others, so I can get the facts AND NOT ASSUME ANYTHING! Many a stressful thought is based on lack of information and misunderstandings.

  • It helped uncover false beliefs about my self which in turn aided in changing bad habits, facilitating feelings of worthiness, and creating more of a life I desired.

NOTE:  Doing this too much could drive you crazy!  Not every thought you have needs to be put through this method.  If you start to doubting  yourself and keep questioning your GUT INSTINCT, it will drive you mad.   Sometimes you do know from your heart or your gut what is going on (what is the truth) and the feelings from those thoughts are trying to tell you something.

Whatever FEELING you have is TRUE…you are feeling it! 

Remember it is not the feeling we are questioning, it is the THOUGHT.    Our thought life plays such a big role in a lighter, more loving you. 

Cheering You on to a Whole INQUIRED THOUGHTS Heart,

Barbara

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2018 Week 30: Seek Truth

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Task 30 of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is to SEEK TRUTH.

Time for those journals again!

Years ago I read a book that helped me understand my mind of thoughts.  The book was Byron Katie’s LOVING WHAT IS.

I have learned not to believe everything I think!  Not every thought I have is totally true!

Katie’s method of inquiring our STRESSFUL THOUGHTS is simple and effective.

Stressful thoughts are any that cause a negative emotion or feeling, such as anxiety, anger, hurt, depression, etc.  They can be about our self, another person, or a situation.

This week be aware of any stressful thoughts you are having.  Write them down and take them through these four questions:

  1. Is it true?

  2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?

  3. How do you react when you believe that thought? Take a moment to feel into it.

  4. Who would you be without that thought?

After you question your thought, turn the thought around….write a few OPPOSITES of that thought…and then ask…which one of those statements holds some truth?

Example:

Thought:   It irritates me that my neighbor is such a busybody!

Opposite Thoughts:

  • My neighbor is not a busybody.
  • I’m a busybody.
  • My neighbor minds his own business.
  • My neighbor is a caring person in his own way.
  • My neighbor is trying to be a good neighbor.

There is probably more truth in the last statement which helps see the neighbor and any situations involving the neighbor from a different, more loving perspective.

Considering that our thoughts play such a big role in our ability to be happy, lighter and more loving, this week’s task will be useful!

Feel free to share in the comments anything you discovered while doing this task.

Cheering You on to a Whole Truth Seeking Heart,
Barbara

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