2018 Week 49: Dear John

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Week 49’s task of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is DEAR JOHN.

Dear John letter was a type of letter written by an individual wishing to terminate a relationship.

The relationship we are “terminating” is with this past year.

You may be reading this while you are still living 2018!  That is okay.  You can still do this now OR wait till New Year’s Day.

You will find this helpful to start 2019 with a sense of closure, peace, and renewed focused.

Take some time this week (or on New Year’s Day) in your HaMakom, with your journal, to answer the following questions.



Saying Good Bye and Honoring the Past Year

Answer the following to help let go of the past year.  Write what comes to mind first.  Try not to over think or spend more than a couple minutes on each question.

  • List Events from this past year:
  • What lessons did you learn in the past year?
  • What are you most proud of yourself for from this past year?
  • What are you most grateful for from the past year?
  • What are you glad you are leaving behind?
  • What 3 words describe last year?
  • What would you title last year if it was a book or movie?

FINALLY, write a short and sweet Good Bye note to this past year.

Dear 2018,  

________________________________


There are several things I do on New Year’s Day to start the year.  This is one of them.

Whether 2018 has been a trying year or a good year, there is something powerful about reviewing it and letting it go.

Feel free to share the title of your year in the comments.

Cheering You on to a Whole Honored and Farewelled 2018 Heart,

Barbara

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CHECK IN Week 23: Khop Khun Mak Kha

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Checking in on Week 23’s task of writing a Khop Khun Mak Kha (Thai for Thank You) Note.

The task was to write a Thank You Note to someone who has had an impact or influence on your life, AND to do this as a handwritten note and through snail mail!


We probably understand the importance of gratitude.  Do you know that there are benefits to sending handwritten thank you notes??

Check this out by Monica at Heart Gratitude

Here are 5 benefits of a handwritten thank-you note

  • It gives us an opportunity to reflect on what another person has given to us or done for us. This is how true appreciation develops. If you don’t give a second thought to what you received then you probably aren’t going to feel very thankful
  • Thinking about and expressing appreciation for what someone else has done for us helps us realize we are loved!
  • In today’s digital age of email and texting a handwritten note is often a novelty. And when you take the time to write and send a note in the mail, that person is assured that you appreciate what they have done for you or given to you. It is often more meaningful than a text or email.
  • Most people really enjoy receiving a nice hand-written note in the mail so you might just make their day as they read that heartfelt card!
  • Handwritten thank-you notes can be kept as a keepsake. I have several heartfelt thank you’s from people I love that I hang on to.


Many of us might keep gratitude journals and in Week 8, this was encouraged for a Lighter More Loving You

Here is a little something from Becky at So Very Blessed on going deeper into cultivating a grateful heart. 


A Gratitude Journal Alone Is Not Enough

Writing in your gratitude journal alone is not enough. A thankful heart comes from being able to feel it, too. 

If the purpose of writing down five things you are grateful for every day was simply that, then it would be enough to just put your pen to paper. After number five, you could check that task off of your list and be done with it.

Cultivating a true heart of thankfulness goes deeper than mere words.Gratitude journals are wonderful and I love them and use them daily, but it's not going to give you a heart of thankfulness without this one missing piece.

The purpose of writing down those things you are grateful for is to feel them. Relive those moments in vivid detail.

Replay that compliment someone told you or that smile your child gave you that lit up the room and warmed your heart.

What was going on around you? How did it make you feel?  

Savor the moment in all of your senses – the words, the emotions, the scents, the sounds.

About three years ago, I was in church with my family. My niece was 3 at the time and I was holding her in my arms while we were all standing up singing a hymn. At one point, she wrapped her arms around me and nuzzled her head into the nook of my neck. I remember everything from that moment – the bellowing organ, the feel of her skin, the smell of her hair, and especially how my heart was just bursting with love for that sweet girl and how thankful I was to be her aunt. I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve thought of that moment since that day and it never ceases to bring a smile to my face and warmth to my heart.

The more details you can remember, the better you will be able to solidify that moment in your memory, and the greater gratitude you will feel. And learning to do that regularly will change your life.

The more often you are able to relive those wonderful moments, the more you will experience a heart, and a life, overflowing with thankfulness.


Still time to hand write that Khop Khun Mak Kha (Thank You) Note!

Cheering You on to a Whole Deeply Cultivated Khop Khun Mak Kha Heart,

Barbara

 

 

 

2018 Week 23: Khop Khun Mak Kha

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Your task for week 23 of 50 Weeks to a Lighter More Loving You is to write a Khop Khun Mak Kha note!

Khop Khun Mak Kha is THANK YOU in Thai!

This week write…snail mail…not text or email….a Thank You note to someone who…

  • has had an impact on your life (maybe a past teacher, preacher, coach, mentor, a friend’s parent),
  • was there when you needed someone,
  • gave you a great piece of advice, an encouraging word, or a wonderful compliment,
  • did a kind deed for you or went out of their way to do something for you,
  • has been or is a great example of a loving human being,
  • exhibits a quality trait you find encouraging.

Maybe this is someone from your past or a current friend, spouse, or even your child!

The idea here is to thank someone for something that was not a “material gift” and to do it as an actual hand written note.

Gratitude is a key to a Lighter More Loving You.

Encouraging You on to a Whole Khop Khun Mak Kha Heart,

Barbara 

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CHECK IN for Week Eight: Write Down Your Treasures

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Checking In for Week Eight of a Lighter More Loving You!

Your Task this week was to WRITE DOWN YOUR TREASURES.  How is it going?  Are you thinking about getting that journal, about writing your treasures down or are you doing it?

There is so much power in BEING GRATEFUL.  Type THE POWER OF GRATITUDE in your search engine and read or be reminded of the power of thankfulness.  There are even scientific studies that have proven that GRATITUDE can:

  • open the door to more relationships
  • improve physical health
  • improve psychological health
  • enhance empathy and reduce aggression
  • help people sleep better
  • improve self-esteem
  • improve mental strength

HAPPINESS, JOY, CONTENTMENT and PEACE are also byproducts of Gratitude.

So many of us are searching for more happiness, joy, contentment, and peace!  We make it so complicated when all we need is to be aware of our TREASURES and note them!

Next to Forgiveness, Gratitude is your most powerful agent to a Lighter More Loving You!

Rallying You to a Whole Documented Treasures Heart,

Barbara

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