CHECK IN for Week 17: Go With the COWLICK!

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Checking in for Week 17‘s task, which was to GO WITH THE COWLICK…the thing you can not change or is resisting change.

The thing that JUST IS!

To let yourself off the hook of straightening it out or of fighting for it to be some other way…especially if it something you can not change…like having a COWLICK!


I was told many years ago

the minute I stop fighting what is, things will change!

That was so true in many areas of my life!

  • what weight I was
  • what level I was in my business
  • wishing I was not divorced
  • not wanting to live where I was
  • certain aspects of my body that just are
  • relationships I was in
  • the cowlicks that I have!

When I ACCEPTED HOW THINGS WERE, things began to change.

Things like…

  • my weight
  • living situation
  • relationships…with others and myself.

The biggest change was in my MIND and HAPPINESS LEVEL!

There was so much more peace, kindness, and gentleness.


Anytime I catch myself fighting or even wishing something was different, I remember my COWLICKS!   I see them everyday!

The COWLICKS are there. 

That is just how it is.

Go with them.

Love them!

What are your COWLICKS?

Cheering You On to a Whole PEACEFUL COWLICK Heart,

Barbara

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CHECK IN for Week 13: REFLECT

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The task for Week 13  of a Lighter More Loving You was to cover your mirrors for a day.  

Skip using a mirror to seek approval for your “okay-ness” based on outward appearance.

The “human” world spends much time on telling us how to REFLECT ourselves to others…from our body size to how to wear a scarf. No one needs a reminder of all the BEAUTY messages we get each day on weight, clothes, skin, age, exercise, nutrition, and on and on.

 


At the yoga studio I attend, there is a post-it note on the mirror that says, “You are beautiful”.

Is it only by our REFLECTION in the mirror that we can say we are beautiful?

This was the point of the exercise…YOU CAN BE BEAUTIFUL without seeing your reflection in a mirror!

When I start getting overly analytical about what I see REFLECTING in a mirror, I remind myself to concentrate more on my HEART than my HAIR!!

What do you want your HEART to REFLECT?

We are each “human” and “spirit”.

Work on your heart (spiritual life) and you will become radiantly beautiful!

The best part of becoming spiritually beautiful is that the only WORK you need to do is to have a spiritual life, stay connected in it, and the spirit does the work.

2 Corinthians 3:18 The Voice (VOICE)

18 Now all of us, with our faces unveiled, reflect the glory of the Lord as if we are mirrors; and so we are being transformed, metamorphosed, into His same image from one radiance of glory to another, just as the Spirit of the Lord accomplishes it.

If you haven’t gone a day without your mirror, I encourage you to do so.  There is nothing wrong with doing your hair, wearing makeup, taking care of yourself, or wearing nice clothes.  That is all wonderful loving self-care…and needed.  If you are overly self-critical or have a hard time going without your mirror…

Concentrate more on what you want your Heart to REFLECT  rather than your Hair and you will have a Lighter More Loving You!!

Cheering You to a Whole Beautiful Reflecting Heart,

Barbara

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Gentleness: A Fruit of a Whole Heart Life

LINKUP-GRAB-BUTTON-2-01Today I’m linking in with BE STILL BE FREE.   I love their weekly podcasts and blog posts.  Wednesdays are their link up day where other bloggers can post a thought, story, or pondering about a specific topic.  Today’s topic is Gentleness. Be sure to click on the BE image to the left  and enjoy their podcasts and wise words.


imagesI truly need a doggie door on my beautiful screened in porch.  My faithful companion, Allie, Border Collie extraordinaire, likes to open the screen door to let herself out to roam.   As smart as she is, I have yet to train her to shut the door.

On more than one occasion, while the door has been open, birds have flown in and become trapped on the porch.

When I find the frightened little souls flying about banging into the screen, their feathered breasts beating fast, and squawking frantically, I start talking to the bird in a sweet, gentle tone. 

“It’s okay.  No need to be afraid. I’m not going to hurt you. The door is right over there. I just want to help you get free.”

I talk quietly and peacefully as I slowly and steadily coax it towards the door.  I am also a bit scared it will fly right at me and get tangled in my hair, or worse case scenario, peck an eye out!  Oh, not to mention that it might relieve itself on me in its fear-filled state!

I think this is a common reaction upon finding helpless beings–a bit nervous with a desire to help.  Deep down in our nature we understand fear and being gentle, soothing beings.  I find this especially true for most of us with animals.

What about with scared and fear-filled human beings?  

What do we usually do when someone starts banging around and squawking?

In relationships, when we have triggered someone’s fears, the behaviors don’t generally send us into gentleness mode.  The frightened partner can become defensive, critical, large, and angry.  Or they may become incredibly quiet, distant, and defiant.  Our tendency is to run the other way physically or emotionally, get our battle gear on and squawk back, or become so overwhelmed we do nothing!

When God or an angel showed up in the bible, they were always reassuring their encountered person with “Do not be afraid.”  No doubt their presence was a bit overwhelming, unusual, and fear producing.

I’m pretty sure they were not squawking or screaming “DO NOT BE AFRAID!!!!!”

I imagine it was in such a compassionate, gentle voice much like how I talk to the frightened birds.

How much different would it be if we remembered gentleness with those who have just been trapped on the screen porch of fear?    Maybe some empathy, some compassion, some gentle reassuring words would help them find the door to freedom.